Add Opinion. Just because people date others Obviously if they were truly happy with that new person, they wouldn't have come back. After 8 months with the new guy, I realized maybe I was just seeing him as a rebound or to replace my ex I found out through a mutual friend he had a GF. I couldn't believe he didn't tell me! I could tell something was wrong in his relationship, I know him well after being with him for 5 yrs.
I can sense he's not fully happy. He even told me he didn't know what he got himself into.. I gave him 2 months to fig out what he wanted..
Its tough. I know your hurting, I do believe in 2nd chances. Most of the people on this site dont I didn't meant to explain so much, I just wanted to point out that people aren't always happy when they date others Keep your head up! Don't wait, but never give up hope! Best Wishes to you! Is this still revelant? Show All Show Less. Heya Girly I wasn't the dumper or the one who wanted to get back together first but I can tell you about my boyfriend who was the dumper and wanted to get back together We were together for a very long time and out of the blue he broke up with me.
He said things like "we're going in different directions" - the conversation ended with tears from both of us - probably the most emotion I'd ever seen from him and "I'll always love you"s from both of us.
We went our seperate ways I found a cutie to have some fun dates with and two weeks later my x said he missed me and he wished he'd never done it.
We met up but I was concerned he missed being in a relationship rather than missed being with me. So I didn't get back with him. Then I wanted to get back with him - he still made my heart plummet.
But by that stage he seeing someone else quite seriously. And then it ended and I didn't know that. A while later: some mutual friends who are more his friends than mine, but mine nonetheless friends of mine too, told me that he missed me and regretted ever breaking up with me. I didn't believe them. They sneakily set us up and everything they said was true.
We got back together Because lets face it - he wanted me back and he was the most amazing guy I'd ever dated. If ever they do, it could take a very long time. What dumpers feel during no contact? During no contact dumpers initially feel a sense of relief that the relationship is over. Then they start getting curious about why their ex never called. Then they start stalking the ex on social media to see how they are doing without them..
If the dumper genuinely cares about the other person, they will usually feel some sort of guilt and hope that he other person is okay during the no contact period. They will most likely worry about the other person, but also feel a sense of relief as it gives them time to clear their head. Women, just like guys also think about their ex-partners from time to time when something or someone reminds them. They do miss you. No way, dumping someone is much easier than being rejected for the majority.
Might not get a lot of positive views, but yes, dumpers do miss the dumpee if they still cared about the them when they decided to end it.
Dumpers feel too relieved when they end their romantic relationship with their long-term partner. For them to want to reach out to their ex, some sort of internal change has to occur. I am personally not a huge advocate of getting back together with your ex. Some of these reasons are being treated badly post-breakup: Ignoring , disparaging, talking badly, cheating, dating others , lying, deceiving, blaming and many more. You must remember that after the breakup, your ex showed you his true colors.
Remember that if he treated you badly, he can do it again. All he needs for his demons to resurface is to stop caring about you again. Dumpers do it to justify their actions while dumpees do it to alleviate some of the pain and make themselves look better. Instead, learn to project the feelings of grief and anger so that you can rejuvenate as quickly as possible.
What are your thoughts about your ex coming back to you? Have you given your ex another chance or are you willing to despite knowing he wants you back for all the wrong reasons? Comment below. Hi Zan, would appreciate some advice from you here. My ex and I were together for close to 3 years and she broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We met for a meal during which she was silent mostly and I could feel that she was impatient and wanted to stay away from me.
She got on a new job just that week ago and I heard from her much lesser since. Had wanted to have a proper talk with her after we got done eating but she was reluctant. I sensed something amiss and pushed through to talk for a while to which she agreed. It was mostly pushing the blame to me and she treated me very coldly and wanted to cut me short.
She then broke up with me via text shortly after. She told me that she wanted to focus on her career and I should go and find someone else if I wanted someone to be with me all the time. I had never ever requested the latter. What do you think? Was I really treated badly during the last stage of our relationship and do you think she will ever come back? I would appreciate some sound advice and I apologize for the length of this.
I was in a long distance relationship different country for almost 3 years and we are both 50 years old. Very serious and very in love from our first date. We never fought, talked several times daily, and no red flags. We were best friends. Due to the pandemic, we have not seen one another in almost a year, and our original plan for me to relocate was pushed from this past Fall to February We were excited about marrying and spending the rest of our lives together.
Almost 3 weeks ago, a custody battle began that will be a super nasty process his ex wife is another story. The next day, our conversation was strained, he was irritated and he picked a silly argument with me. For the next 4 days he completely shut me out, then sent an email breaking it off. I was blindsided and devastated. He cut off contact. I did almost 2 weeks of NC before he reached out to talk.
He asked to call me. I told him I would be ok with talking. I feel if he really loved us, he never would have left, especially the way he did it. He said he would still like to talk sometimes since we are not breaking up due to a lack of love or not wanting to be together. Learn how your comment data is processed. A lot of pleading and begging and then anger. He apologised to me for some of the things I was angry about. I was scared the apology was him tying off loose ends but he did send me a message yesterday, a nice one, unrelated to anything.
I hope to get to at least 21 days by the end, unless he contacts me in a way I cannot ignore. The main problem with us is distance.
The whole thing sucks. But thank you for this site and your videos. I really hope I can get back with him. I am so sure of it. Making Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous. Success Stories. The No Contact Rule. The Podcast.
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